Monday, November 7, 2011

pleasure does not mean happiness

"Although there are no easy solutions to avoiding these destructive pleasures, fortunately we have a place to begin: the simple reminder that what we are seeking in life is happiness. As the Dali Lama points out, that is an unmistakable fact. If we approach out choices in life keeping that in mind, it is easier to give up the things that are ultimately harmful to us, even if those things being us momentary pleasure. The reason why it is unusually difficult to "Just say no!" is found in the word "no"; that approach is associated with a sense of rejecting something, of giving up something, of denying ourselves.

But there is a better approach: framing any decision we face by asking ourselves, :Will it bring me happiness?" That simple question can be a powerful tool in helping us skillfully conduct all areas of our lives, not just in the decision whether to indulge in drugs or that third piece of banana cream pie. It puts a new slant on things. Approaching our daily decisions and choices with this question in mine shifts the focus from what we are denying ourselves to what we are seeking - ultimate happiness. A kind of happiness, as defined by the Dali Lama, that is stable and persistent. A state of happiness that remains, despite life's ups and downs and normal fluctuations of mood, as part of the very matrix of our being.  With this perspective, it's easier to make the "right decision" because we are acting to give ourselves something, not denying or withholding something from ourselves - an attitude of moving toward rather that moving away, an attitude of embracing life rather than rejecting it. This underlying sense of moving toward happiness can have a very profound effect; it makes us more receptive, more open, to the joy of living" - from The Art of Happiness

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

and it's hard to dance with a devil on your back

with the recent release of florence and the machine's new album ceremonials, i've been inspired to start this up again. not sure if anyone is out there listening but here we go...
"shake it off" is the first single released from this album and it's truly something special. music, beat, lyrics and video are all so inspiring and just make you want to get up and swing your body around. This is my method for full absorption of the song:
1. listen to the music and the beat
2. watch the video 
3. read the lyrics (more than once) 
4. blast it in your room and dance until you shake off every devil on your back

Thursday, May 12, 2011

Losing Myself

"and I can't see you
with anyone else
even if that means holding you down
even if that means losing myself"
-robin pecknold

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

If You Forget Me by Pablo Neruda

I want you to know
one thing.

You know how this is:
if I look
at the crystal moon, at the red branch
of the slow autumn at  my window,
if I touch
near the fire
the impalpable ash
or the wrinkled body of the log,
everything carries me to you,
as if everything that exists,
aromas, light, metals,
were little boats
that sail
towards those isles of yours that wait for me.

Well now,
if little by little you stop loving me
I shall stop loving you little by little.

If suddenly
you forget me
do not look for me,
for I  shall already have forgotten you.

If you think it long and mad,
the wind of banners
that passes through my life,
and you decide
to leave me at the shore
of the heart where I have roots,
that on that day,
at that hour,
I shall lift my arms
and my roots will set off
to seek another land.

if each day,
each hour,
you feel that you are destined for me
with implacable sweetness,
if each day a flower
climbs up to your lips to seek me,
as my love, as my own,
in me all that fire is repeated,
in me nothing is extinguished or forgotten,
my love feeds on your love, beloved,
and as long as you live it will be in your arms
without leaving mine

Sunday, May 8, 2011

Joni Said It Best..

All I really really want our love to do
Is to bring out the best in me and in you too
All I really really want our love to do
Is to bring out the best in me and in you
I want to talk to you, I want to shampoo you
I want to renew you again and again
Applause, applause - life is our cause
When I think of your kisses
My mind see-saws

-Joni Mitchell (All I Want)

Sunday, May 1, 2011

So much to do...

"But I don't want to die! I have so much to do." 
-James Franco, age 4

Monday, April 25, 2011

In the End

In the end 
these things matter most:
How well did you love?
How fully did you live?
How deeply did you let go?

-Siddhārtha Gautam

Sunday, April 24, 2011

Edward Sharpe & The Magnetic Zeros

The lyrics to "Home" by Edward Sharpe & The Magnetic Zeros are amazing one, but they sound 10x better (and cuter) when they're coming out of this little girls mouth...

Writing On the Bathroom Walls

As noted in my previous post, with my Senior Project deadline coming up, I've been spending a lot of time in the library. One of the stalls in the Women's bathroom has some great quote and doodles so I decided to share some of them. Before I graduate I hope to add some of my two sense to these walls.

SUNY Purchase, bathroom stall, writing, Time is Fleeting
"Time is fleeting. Your life is now. Go!!"

SUNY Purchase, bathroom stall, writing,I Still Love You Everyday
"I still love you everyday, my dear."

SUNY Purchase, bathroom stall, writing, A Good Laugh
"The closest distance between two people is a good laugh."

SUNY Purchase, bathroom stall, writing, Winter & Lost Love
"There's just something about purchase in the winter and lost loves
that go hand in hand."

SUNY Purchase, bathroom stall, writing, Embrace Your Body
"The human body is a beautiful thing, embrace yours."

SUNY Purchase, bathroom stall, writing, weed, marijuana, Puff Puff Pass
There's always your reference to weed...

SUNY Purchase, bathroom stall, writing, Be Somebody
"Being somebody doesn't make you anybody, anyway."

SUNY Purchase, bathroom stall, writing, Pac Man
Pac Man

SUNY Purchase, bathroom stall, writing, school newspaper, Better Than the Indy
"This bathroom stall has better content than the Indy"
(the Indy is the school newspaper)

, SUNY Purchase, bathroom stall, writing, Favorite Thing About Being a Student Worker at Purchase
"My favorite aspect of being a student worker for Purchase College's Library
is being about to hide in this stall and read all the new additions!"

SUNY Purchase, bathroom stall, writing, Poetry On the Bathroom Walls
Sometimes the beauty is easy. Sometimes you don't have to try at all
Sometimes you can hear the wind blow in a handshake.
Sometimes there's poetry written right on the bathroom walls."

In my last post, I complained about the condition of the library, but this is one of the things I've enjoyed. Hopefully when they decide to do some renovation these stalls are saved. If not, I'm glad I have documentation!

Thursday, April 21, 2011

Smokey Library

So as I was on my 12th straight hour of working on my Senior Project I decided to take a walk around the library and came across this sign. 

Smoking in designated areas

I've always had an issue with how dated a lot of the infrastructure is on campus, but this is kind of ridiculous. The least they could do is take down a, clearly, old sign.  Shame on you SUNY.

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

Dear Blank, Please Blank

This website is hilarious. Dear Blank, Please Blank

Mark Warren Jacques

Falling into love
(acrylic and ink on canvas board)
We are a spiral spinning,
and I will follow you in as far as you are falling.
(acrylic and ink on paper)

And when you appear,
all the suns sound in my body
bells shake the sky,
and a hymn fills the world. 
(acrylic, ink and enamel on paper)

Art is already stimulating, but with titles like these it is a whole other experience. I found this on Free People's blog and couldn't wait to check out the rest of Mark Warren Jacque work. 

"Saying Fuck It and Letting Go All Together"
(acrylic, ink and enamel on panel)

It's beautiful & strange, we were drawn together, as to leave a sense of connection that we never
want to lose touch with. 
(ink acrylic and graphite on panel)

Check out more of his work here.

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Pablo Neruda Sonnet XVII

I do not love you as if you were a salt rose, or topaz
or the arrow of carnations the fire shoots off.
I love you as certain dark things are to be loved,
in secret, between the shadow and the soul.

I love you as the plant that never blooms
but carries in itself the light of hidden flowers;
thanks to your love a certain solid fragrance,
risen from the earth, lives darkly in my body.

I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where.
I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride;
So I love you because I know no other way

than this: where I does not exist, nor you,
so close that your hand on my chest is my hand,
so close that your eyes close as I fall asleep. matter how many times I read this poem, no matter where I am, 
it still makes my heart sink deep in my chest

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Katy Perry - ET

I wouldn't say that I like the words to this song, but the video is really something else. Definitely a case of a cool video making up for silly words.

Monday, April 11, 2011


"There is nothing that is a more certain sign of insanity than to do the same thing over and over and expect the results to be different." -Einstein

Monday, April 4, 2011

the wild and the tame

"What should I do about the wild and the tame?
The wild heart that wants to be free, and the tame heart
that wants to come home. I want to be held.
I don't want you to come too close. I want you to scoop
me up and bring me home at nights. I don't want to tell you where I am.
I want to keep a place among the rocks where no one can find me.
I want to be with you."

- Jeanette Winterson

I found this quote weeks ago, but couldn't really relate to it. I knew it was something I would never want to forget and so I printed it out and stuck it to my bulletin board. Now, being in a state of confusion about love, I was desperate to find a way to put my feelings into words; and then I looked up. There in the corner of my bulletin board was my comfort. Nothing better describes my emotions at this moment in time then this paragraph of words. 

Sunday, March 27, 2011

i know you can't judge a book by its cover, but what if they don't have books?

"we need to make books cool again. if you go home with somebody
and they don't have books, don't fuck them."
-john waters

absolutely love this. i wouldn't consider myself a huge reader, although i really wish i was. when i do decide to pick up a book, there is nothing like the smell of the pages, or cracking the spine for the first time, or underlining a phrase you want to remember. my favorite part of books to be honest are the cover art. although you literally can't judge a book by its cover, it's the first thing that draws my attention. a lot of the books that i do have, whether i've read them or not are around my room for decoration. icons of fashion leans up against a mirror while european garden design sits on a night stand and catcher in the rye, the boys of my youth, alice in wonderland, and slouching towards bethlehem are stacked in the corner of my desk. 
i will never buy an e-reader. ew.

Thursday, March 17, 2011


"never regret anything, because at one time it was exactly what you wanted"

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Miranda July - The Shared Patio

my sister just told me to read this quote. 

"Do you have doubts about life? Are you unsure if it is worth the trouble? Look at the sky: that is for you. Look at each person's face as you pass on the street: those faces are for you. And the street itself, and the ground: all these things are you for. They are as much for you as they are for other people. Remember this when you wake up in the morning and think you have nothing. Stand up and face the east. Now praise the sky and praise the light within each person under the sky. It's ok to be unsure. But praise, praise, praise."

This is from a book called No one belongs here more than you. by Miranda July that is full of short stories. This story is titled "The Shared Patio."

Monday, March 14, 2011

Third Eye Blind - Wounded

"that's just my battle scar"

This is one of my favorite quotes from a Third Eye Blind song called Wounded. If I keep this up I'm sure you will see a lot more from their songs. I've had a thing for them since high school and it's something that my sister and I have always agreed on. I think this quote says, yeah I have hurt but that's just whats left of it, the scar. Says that it's ok to be wounded, but pick yourself up and keep going. The scar will always be there but keep it as a reminded of how strong you can be. I think a mistake that people make is trying to forget the past. The past is just as important as the present and future; maybe even more important. Life is all about lessons, and those lessons turn into the past. If you never learned that 2+2=4 then you'd never be able to know that 2+2+6=10. So remember, and embrace the past and just learn from it. When someone asks, tell them that's just your battle scar. Be proud of it. 

Saturday, March 12, 2011

Friday, March 11, 2011

So, what do you want to do?

"I didn't know what I wanted to do, 
but I always knew the woman I wanted to be." 
-Diane Von Furstenberg

With graduation coming up in less than three month, I keep getting the "So what do you want to do?" question followed by the "you do know what you want to do with your life, right?" look. I hate them both. I think I can blame growing up in Westchester County for that. I have no idea what I want to do, but I've always known the kind of path I want to go down. I want to be an experienced woman. I don't know if I will ever have a set career because there are too many things I want to try. Isn't that the point of life, to experience? I'm not sure when sitting on a computer a week after graduation updating my Facebook status because I'm so bored, hoping that one day I'll work my way up in this damn company, became something to strive for? Whatever it is that I do, I will be successful (whatever that means) because deep down I know I want to make a mark on the world. 
That's enough thinking for now. It's 3:47 in the morning and if I don't learn to sleep I won't be able to experience anything. 

Wednesday, March 2, 2011

Fuck Yeah, Tattoos in French

I was introduced to the blog, Fuck Yeah, Tattoos, about a year ago and ever since have been an avid follower. I always seem find myself gravitating towards the tattoos of words, noticing a couple of things: What does it say? If it's not in english, what does it translate to? What language is it? Who said it? What does it mean? Where is it from? What does it mean to the individual? What is the font? I think because I have contemplated putting words on my body, I like to see what others choose and why. When searching through the archives last night, I came across this tattoo and loved it. Not only is the saying so unique, it's in French and the inspiration behind it is great. 

It translates to: "I fear of becoming an adult without dreams"and it was spray painted on the side of a building during her trip to France. 

Sunday, February 27, 2011

Watching the Oscars

"It's not the load that breaks you down
it's the way you carry it" -Lena Horne

Thursday, February 24, 2011

No Failures

"What would you do if you knew you 
could not fail?" -anonymous

Last night while watching Holly's World, a show on E!, one of the characters, Josh Strickland, a Broadway star, decided to start therapy to manage his panic attacks. In the Dr.'s office there was a sign with this quote on it and it got my mind spinning. I'm the type of person who is scared of regret, always have been, and I hate it. I can't tell you how many times I haven't tried something just because I thought I wouldn't be good or it wouldn't work out. Seeing this, made me think about how different my life could be if I was more confident with my decision making. If I knew I wouldn't fail, what would I have done? If you knew you wouldn't fail, what would you do?
I think this will be a quote that I will always keep in the back of my mind every time I get scared to try something new.

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Elizabeth Gilbert

“a true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. but to live with a soul mate forever? nah. too painful. soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. a soul mate’s purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, and make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life.”

—elizabeth gilbert via free people

Monday, February 21, 2011

Kings of Leon

"here's to you, here's to me
on to us, nobody knows
nobody sees, nobody but me" 

-Kings of Leon, Cold Desert


"As you amble through life, whatever be your goal, keep your eye upon the doughnut and not upon the hole" -writing on a sign in a coffee shop in NY.

Last night I was doing some reading for a class I'm taking, Commercial Theatrical Producing. The book is titled The Commercial Theatrical Institute: Guide to Producing Plays and Musicals and is edited by Frederic B. Vogel and Ben Hodges, two well known men in the theater world that specialize in producing. In the introduction, Mr. Vogel write a few words on investing an raising capital and ends with a little writing on the wall. He talks about how when he first began as a commercial producer, he stayed in the money raising business and would always try to remember a little saying he saw on the wall in a coffee shop he visited quite frequently. Whether you're a commercial producer of Off-Broadway or Broadway shows, or just a student trying to graduate from college, you too should think of this quote. When you find yourself focusing on the hole, or the minor details, remember the doughnut and try to see the big picture.

Sunday, February 20, 2011

Charles R. Swindoll

"The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you...we are in charge of our attitudes" -Charles R. Swindoll

I found this quote when scrolling through lovers in vain and it hit home pretty well. Unfortunately I think I can have a bad attitude when it comes to certain situations and I've been trying to work on it. When you're stressed about school or work or relationships etc., try and keep a positive outlook. Sometimes it just makes dealing a lot easier.